Now, as you may imagine, when I tell people "I'm an Ethical Hedonist," I get a mélange of reactions. Some folks giggle and gape like they just saw Miss Manners in a g-string (and, in a way, they have). Others embrace me like a long lost sister speaking the native tongue they long to hear. "YES!" they declare, "An Ethical Hedonist! That's what I am!" or "That's what I want to be."
Then there are the cynics and skeptics, the Doubting Thomases and Tomasinas who squint at me in sly disbelief. "Ethical Hedonist? Isn't that, like, a Compassionate Conservative? Or a Bourgeois Bohemian? I mean, isn't that, like, an Oxymoron?" To which I patiently but firmly reply. "No, but it creates a lot of Oxytoxin, and if you can do it, you're definitely NOT a moron."
mind your manners. Ethical Hedonism doesn't mean "anything goes"
or "if it feels good, screw it," damn the consequences, the kids,
the maid and the neighbors. You must respect the desires--or lack of desire--of
Ethical Hedonism is a new/ancient etiquette for a society whose doors are
open to the World Wide Web in all its diverse, pansexual, multi-dimensional
glory, danger, fun and foolishness. It gently but firmly guides you toward
exploring and expressing your sexual, animal, pleasure-loving nature while
keeping the peace as civilized, considerate ladies and gentleman.
Knowledge is the Key
In the Bible, "to know" means "to have sex with." Adam and Eve eat the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge. Nobody knows if the fruit was really an apple, a fig, a plum or a date? What we do know is they have sex.
is power. Sexual knowledge is sexual power. Socrates said "Know thyself."
Ethical Hedonism says: Know thy sex. Get to know it as well as you can. Get
to know your abilities and disabilities, your sexual skills and lacks, your
likes and pet peeves. Get to know your partner(s) too.
Sex isn't easy to know, of course. Once you think you've got it, it slips away like mercury. Or it stabs you in the back, kicks you out of Eden before you can say "Where's that Snake?" But ignore it at your peril, certainly at your loss. It is your greatest, most vital, powerful gift from God, the Goddess, Nature, Space Aliens, Your Higher Power or Whatever You Believe In. Explore it and express it with grace, compassion, responsibility, humility, and fun--loads of fun (that's the hedonism part!).
poorly repressed, unsettles some families;
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